If the idea of creating a blessingway ritual seems at all daunting to you right now, we encourage you to explore this idea in any way that feels right. A blessingway doesn’t need to be an overwhelming, overcomplicated undertaking. If in doubt, try planning a ritual that is very simple, rather than abandoning the entire concept. Perhaps you’re thinking all this stuff is too hippydippy or touchy-feely for you. Well then, stay in your comfort zone and don’t design a “way out there” event. There are so many ways to put a blessingway together that no matter how you end up doing it, it will be an amazing experience.
The Five Stages of Ritual
STAGE 1: Beginning We create a ritual space that looks and feels special. Guests need to become centered and ready to participate in a sacred
ceremony. We form a circle to create a container of support for the mother-to-be. When we call in the presence of the Divine, we’re asking for all the help we can get.
STAGE 2: Shifting
We state the blessingway’s purpose so we all know what we’re doing and why we’re doing it, and while we’re at it, we share our
intention with the powers that be. Introducing ourselves helps us connect with one another. We help the mother-to-be let go of any negative beliefs or fears she may be carrying so that she can embrace all the blessings, prayers, and honor we wish to bestow upon her.
STAGE 3: Focusing We honor, pamper, and adorn the mother-to-be to fill her with positive and empowering energies. We tell her stories to encourage her, offer blessings to support her, and give her gifts that will help guide her on her journey.
STAGE 4: Completing
Having invested so much time and energy in preparing the mother-to-be, we ensure that the divine forces have, in fact, heard our requests for her safe passage. We raise energy to affirm and charge the work we’ve done and to send our good intentions out into the world. We weave a web to maintain our connection with one another beyond the day of the ritual. When our work is done, we thank and release the divine powers we’ve invited to join us and open our circle so we may move on to the final
stage of our ritual.
STAGE 5: Feasting
We end our ritual by sharing food together in celebration. We eat together to ground our energy, help us shift from sacred space back to social space, and bring the work of the ritual into our everyday lives.