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It is a universal truth that if we give something the space to exist, and put our energy into it, then it has a good chance of becoming a reality. Sadly, we live in a fear-based culture. While pregnant, we train to handle the worst-case scenarios—testing for every possible defect, preparing to heal from tears and cuts that may never happen. We familiarize ourselves with the machinery and the mechanics that will save us or our babies in case something goes wrong.
We learn that birth is a medical emergency, one that we could not possibly handle by ourselves, and that it will take a team of green-swathed surgeons to protect us from the many risks and the imminent harm. Our failure is impending. C-sections are the norm. The baby formula is standing by because we might not have it in us,we alone might not be enough.
A blessingway ritual offers a space for women to release the fears, let go of the worries, and set aside the worst-case scenario training. It creates a positive environment where we can think about the birth process in a different frame of mind. Emphasis is placed on our strengths rather than our inadequacies, and sitting in this place of power,we are affirmed.
During a blessingway ceremony, we get the opportunity to connect to our intuitive selves—the instinctive part of us that hasn’t read the books and doesn’t know about all the things that might go wrong, the part of us that is simply waiting for the moment when we can finally hold and greet our baby.
By investing some time in the powerful and positive visions of birth as a “blessed event,” the reality of it being marvelous begins to grow into being. Cultural habits are strong, so it takes time for new patterns and pathways to emerge. As more women work to create a new vision of birth, one in which we are fully present, the cultural habits around pregnancy and childbirth will eventually shift with us and new traditions will be made.